What is up, peeps?! It has been a while since I have done a general post for the hell of it but those of you that know me understand why. Between the hospital visists, bullshit at the good old paycheck factory (Or lackthereof. ZING!), AnimeLand Wasabi and going through my mid-life crisis at 28 I will just say that the month of March was kind of a turning point in my path to superstardom. Either that or blinding rage-filled insanity. Either way, someone is getting punched in the balls.
So a lot happened in March that I didn’t get to talk about. Most of it was based off of either conversations or events that I never got a chance to tell the peeps about due to being sick or hella busy. I will try to recap them through April and also bring some new stuff because…I can just tell that April is going to piss me off. I haven’t had a calm April since 2005 and this one doesn’t seem to look like it will break that streak.
I have gotten some questions, a few blog related while some were just questions in general over the last few weeks. I am going to try to answer a question a day so if you have something to ask, go ahead and feel free to do so. Odds are there is no question too personal but if it is I will answer the best I can with out giving away too much about other parties. So, let me get started with one that a certain lady that asked me after a slight argument…
Why Are You So Hard On The Victim?
First off: NO I’M NOT. This all stems mostly from a post she read I believe I put up in 2007 about my stance on date rape and how in my women’s studies class in college I was said to be “blaming the victim” but in actuality I was blaming asshatery. The conversation got on domestic violence and you know my stance on that: you gotta beat em to keep em. I KID, ASSHOLES! Geez, that may be the funniest thing Griff has ever said. Get a few drinks in me and I will tell you but I too have been involved in a dysfunctional union. And I have to say that I understand the reasons that women sometimes don’t leave (comfort, fear, they are LOADED WITH THAT PHAT CASH, they throw plates at you…shit, flashback) I can understand and usually sypathize with. Like anything I say and everything I believe, that is understandable to an extent. You see, this whole conversation started when I said that Rihanna taking back Chris Brown and subsequently leaving him and acting like a dumbass was even worse than breaking it off and going into seclusion. Now I have gotten a bad rap from…well…everyone due to my views on this blog about women and men being fuckwits and I wont back down from them. But I believe there is something generally stupid about someone that leaves an abuser and going batshit crazy by fucking anything that moves in “revenge.” I have always said that when you lose, the first thing you do is go over what happened and see what went wrong to make sure you don’t repeat the mistakes. It isnt dwelling, it’s reviewing game film. If you see that you always allow a certain type of behavior and that behavior of the other party results in a boot in your ass…you don’t learn anything from that by fucking the next person that buys you a drink because you need to “vindicate” yourself.
So let’s circle back. I am not hard on victims. I have heard that in the last month by no less than three people and I have to say that I am a pretty logical human being. I have faluts and flaws but I also have a set of beliefs that I think are pretty darn good. One of those beliefs is that you don’t commit violence on people. ANYONE. Whether it be in war (And I am not a hippie, I just think that dance offs solve more than bombings)
Or in a relationship. Violence is VIOLENCE. The concept of domestic violence to me personally put the stigma of being weak on women just as I feel “hate crime” puts the same stigma on minorities. That it makes it worse when we get abused than if a White person has the same crime happen against them. The act of violence is one I may find humor in but I never condone the actions. It isnt right to hit anyone…although some motherfuckers deserve it. That being said, I don’t believe I am hard on the victim as much as I am hard on the actions. You see, I learned from someone a long time ago that you can question the actions but you can never truly question someone’s motives because unless told you don’t really know. So I don’t know really why a woman will stay with an abusive person nor do I want to. I know my own situations and I understand conceptually but I will never know that persons’ mindstate or rational. But I CAN say that if you get beaten in a public forum and you decide to stay with that person and then leave when people question your actions that you are kind of weak. Now like I said I can only judge the actions and the actions seemed erratic. I don’t know WHY she did it because maybe she wised up and realized “You know, once you know the Street Fighter II re-dizzy combo with Guile you never NOT USE IT and I don’t want that again because that is a devastating backhand he has." And that would be a good thing. OR she did it so she could dick around with Fez. Which is also fine but understand that calling things how they are isn’t being hard on the victim. She also got pissed off about my date rape theory but all I have to say is that if I buy you a drink and you drink it up then you are going home with me! Now all the fellas sing it!
Oy vey, I miss that song. So I will have something up later tonight or Monday night as another question. If you have one, feel free to ask it. Until then, stay up peeps.
Chachi Out
